“For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful thoughts, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.”
– Audrey Hepburn
My father always told me, “No matter how difficult the situation is, how rigid you feel a person is, always try to find something good in him/her”. Growing up to be an ambitious person, I often had to deal with multiple people. As my correspondence with folk began to increase, I realized that each person comes with his unique traits and every situation is sui generis in itself. The human mind is non-deterministic, so does situations. Every person has its own flaws and fortes. No two men react the same way. No moment can ever repeat itself. I might write multiple blogs like this in the future. But, this very moment, when I’m writing this blog, will be one and only of its kind.
In my journey of entrepreneurship, as workload escalated, I started finding it difficult to keep everyone happy buttressing their deportment and managing the work-pressure, simultaneously. Being the solely responsible personnel, multitasking and limitless hours of hard work were donnée.
I remember the day that changed my life. I was flying to India. Sitting next to me was a woman traveling with her teenager. The girl was telling her mother about a friend who was unkind and mouthy. After listening to daughter’s complaints patiently, mother narrated her a story about a renowned industrialist, Andrew Carnegie.
‘Andrew Carnegie was once asked how he dealt with people. Andrew Carnegie’s prescient and penetrating reply was something that changed my perception forever. He replied, “Dealing with people is like digging gold: When you go digging for an ounce of gold, you have to move tons of dirt to get an ounce of gold. But when you go digging, you don’t go looking for the dirt, you go looking for the gold.”’
Those words compelled me to refurbish my perception of people. Soon after that incident, I discerned that looking for the good in people not only gives them delight but also makes me feel more confident and sanguine. I began noticing good traits about myself too.
As I started admiring their good virtues I observed that I was complimenting them more often. It was a pure joy that I experienced as I met more and more beautiful minds. I could sense positive vibes as I shed negativity and criticism. I focussed more on what they can rather than what they can’t. I was transformed into a person who was more prudent than condemnatory.
There are oodles of bad things if we are determined to criticize. But, to notice a single good attribute is a bliss. It assists in turning negative stress into the positive one. I became a gold digger. There is something good and favorable in every person and every situation. Sometimes, we might have to dig deep down the mine if the gold is intensely latent. However, in the desire to find the gold, we do not give up even if we have to plow an extra inch.
I would annotate this with a famous quote by Natalie Massenet that just got evoked in my mind,
“Positivity is like a muscle: keep exercising it, and it becomes a habit.”
Cloverbites By Rupesh Sanghavi 
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